“Whom findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22
Marriage is a covenant relationship between a man and woman. It should be a beautiful experience shared by both parties. Both the husband and wife accepts certain martial responsibilities. For many individuals, the idea marriage goes beyond the earthly covenant. For believers, marriage is a spiritual representation of their relationship with Yahweh. As a society, despite what we know about marriage and what it entails, divorce is still a growing epidemic in our culture.
After examining my own marriage and speaking with other individuals, marriage is not the cause of our relationship problems. We have given life to something that has no substance. We, ourselves, are to blame for the state of marriage. Yes, society is to blame for the lack luster appearance of marriage. Young people would rather shack up than get married. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? This is the mentally of young adults today concerning marriage.
A marriage will not be perfect. It is something both individuals must work at the entire time. You will fall in and out of love, face life changing crisis, and at times contemplate divorce. The enormous amount of outside influences will definitely factor into the success or failure of a marriage. I’ve been told that married people should not hang out with single people. I believe this to be true to a certain extent. If the single people in life respect your marriage and hold the same views on marriage, then there should be no problem. However, do have individuals that will find fault in marriage regardless of the beauty in it. This view could stem from past relationships or jealously.
In short, if your relationship was on the rocks prior to tying the knot, do not expect for marriage to change either you or the other person. Marriage is not a living entity that work magic in a relationship. It has no feelings or voice. Whatever problems that exist in your relationship, must be resolved prior to marriage. It would be good to seek counseling prior to entering such a sacred and life changing union.